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Self-improvement lesson 6. Nobody knows what they’re doing all the time

It’s so easy to look at someone else’s life and feel down because their life is perfect while yours is far from it. And social media is very much building up under the idea of everyone having a good time. But that’s in a way also the beauty of social media. You can edit and filter until your life looks enviable even to yourself.


If the world population would be charged with lying on social media, I guess at least 90% of us would be found guilty. And the truth is, when you sit there and edit a photo or think of a status to sum up a version of your life you want other people to see, there are millions around the world who do the same.


It may look like the next person has it all. A good job, a nice house and a perfect family. But behind the carefully constructed facade, there might be hiding some ugly ghosts, or at least some frustrations and insecurities.


And it’s good to know that we’re not alone. Nobody knows what they’re doing all the time, or have a secure future. We all have days; weeks and even months when we feel lost and like the world is working against us. And if that’s how you feel, my best advice is to stay away from social media as much as possible and even withdraw yourself a little from people who intimidate you until you feel able to cope with them again.


It’s hard not to compare yourself to other people and beat yourself up over not having gone as far as them. But you don’t know their struggle to get where they are, or even if everything they’re posting is real. The worst thing I can do when I’m down, is to go on Twitter and check the updates of artists I feel I can compare myself too. Their amount of followers and radio plays just end up depressing me. But when I’ve stayed away, lived a rich offline life and feel confident that I’m doing everything I can to progress at that moment, I can manage to feel happy for them and what they’ve achieved, knowing it will be me one day as long as I stay consistent.


So next time you feel you’ve not got your shit together and that everyone else is doing way better than you, remember that those people probably have the same feelings about other people and maybe about you. And take a timeout and do something that makes you happy.