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Happy 2016!

I know I’ve been a bit of a stranger recently. I always have these incentives to blog regularly, but something always comes up.

Anyways, let me start by wishing you all a happy 2016. May this New Year be the year where your goals are reached and your dreams come to pass.

2015 was a great year for me. Though mostly the exciting stuff happened in the first 9 months of the year. After the NEA in September where I didn’t won my category, but still had a great time and learned a lot, and till new-years-eve, I was just in Norway working on the business side of my music career and my Forever Living business.

But at the start of this year, I went back to Nigeria again and being back was lovely. I’ve done what I think is my best project yet. A song featuring Chidinma, a very sought after female singer in the Nigerian music industry for those who’re not too familiar with afrobeat and produced by DJ Coublon, producer of the year. The video was shot by my team member and friend Hg2films. The song will soon be released and I just can’t wait to share it with you!

What I think made this project so good, was both the fact that I now have a lot more experience and better self-esteem and, in the case of the video, I had my own personal stylist, who is practically like my sister. She didn’t dress me up in anything until I understood what kind of look and style it was and she kept a very sharp eye on the make-up artists, so I got the look I wanted. And so I felt I looked better and had more control.

Having the right team around you is extremely important for everyone. But for me as a blind artist, it’s especially important because I need to have that extra level of trust. My opinions on how something looks only goes as far as what I can feel myself and that isn’t always enough in an industry where appearance is so important.

I am back in Norway now, dealing with the cold harsh winter. But though I’m known for hating snow and the cold, I’m feeling really positive right now. Spring isn’t that far away and with spring comes my birthday. And I’ll soon be travelling again for shows and promos.

I also need to work on my other business this year. And I need to focus on recruiting which I’m terrified of. But I believe in having many things going at the same time and if I want to succeed, I need to step out of my comfort zone. Easier said than done though. But I’m ready for the challenge. Hey, it’s nearly spring! The Lioness is rising!

Take charge of, your clothes

I’m sorry it’s been about a month since I’ve been blogging, but things have been a little hectic career wise. I’ll tell you more about that in another post, but let me tell you that NYC is really amazing and I’m just in luuurv with the place.

Now onto clothes.

After having decided how I wanted my hair to look, it was time to choose my own style of clothing too.

I was lucky in that mum, despite being mum and from a different generation was really good at helping me pick fashionable things to wear. In clothes shops, she would even have me ask other young girls if what I wore was fashionable, something I found embarrassing, but did all the same because where I grew up, you were damned if you war the wrong kind of clothes. Not that the bullying at school stopped because I was wearing the latest fashion, but on the outside at least, I felt more like the other girls.

But then, I decided that I wanted to do something different. I felt as if dressing like I did was a bit like putting on a uniform. I wore stuff, not because I really liked the style, but because I wanted to fit in.

I have always liked long flowing dresses, African inspired attire and alike. A far cry from the Tobacco pants with the side pockets and the high Buffalo shoes. (Yes, it was the 90s. Give me a break LOL.)

So in the summer of 1999, I started wearing what I liked. I figured the bullying wasn’t going to stop, but by then I just wanted to do my own thing and I cared less about it. I didn’t have much time left at that school anyway.

I experimented with all kinds of long flowing type stuff from dresses and skirts to tunics over tight jeans. And this being the nineties, skirts over trousers was actually a thing.

Mum despaired at some of my choices. I was covering up rather than exposing my body and she asked me why I couldn’t be more like normal teenage girls. Never mind that she’d frowned at the belly button tops I used to wear.

Eventually, I’ve found a happy medium between being a slave to fashion and wearing what I like. I sport the tight jeans, without side pockets, which I did in my teens, because my figure has remained very much the same. I also wear long African dresses, but usually in the right kind of contexts, like when I do interviews and shows in Nigeria, or just want to look a little different at parties. There is no bullying now though and I doubt whether anybody can accuse me of covering up to much.

And the more confident I get with my own styling, the more I combine things that I think will look good together. And my combinations have at times inspired sighted friends who never thought of doing the same things, or didn’t dare to do, such as yellow tights under a black dress, or a blue singlet instead of a black under a similarly coloured see through top.

My style also constantly evolves, because I get new ideas for myself by looking in shops and getting feedback from fashionista friends who can describe styles better to me than most fashion blogs.

The advice I have for blind girls and women looking for their style, is just like with their hair. Follow your instinct. What do you like? How can that fit in to the contemporary fashion picture? Have a few trusted people who can tell you if a colour looks good on you or not. You can feel yourself if the fabric and fit is to your liking. Don’t be too deterred when somebody tells you it may not look great on you, but keep it in mind and gather more reactions before you decide if you’re comfortable with a certain look.

Remember too, that accessories can change a simple pair of jeans and t-shirt into something spectacular. If you’re not the type who likes to stray too far from the H&M basics section, a certain style neck laisse, belt or bangles can be your style definers.

Trust yourself

When you’re a professional singer, you find that you’ve managed to land a couple of other bi-jobs as well.

The two most important jobs I have when I’m out there representing is talk good and look good.

Talking has never really been an issue for me. I’m a trained journalist after all. And I also have a big mouth. My dad has said many times that if I’m out of career options, I’d probably get rich selling sand in Sahara.

Looking good is harder. Not looking good as in keeping fit, clean, smell good and make sure you wear the kind of clothes and makeup that best brings out your natural beauty.

Finding those clothes and that makeup however is a little bit harder when you can’t see, but you learn.

Now, I can easily feel what kind of clothes I can wear, and what makes me look cheap, fat or like a blind person who has no clue what she’s put on.

With makeup too, I’m starting to get a pretty good idea. I know that although my skin overtone is fair, my undertone is brown. So pink makeup doesn’t make sense while cold reds and browns do.

The difficult part comes when I’m going out to select those clothes and makeup. Most blind chicks will tell you that they have one main trusted person or maybe two or three, who they can buy clothes and makeup with. That trusted person will make sure the colours are right and that they complement you rather than nonplement you.

There’s nothing wrong in shopping alone. However, unless the sales person knows you well, she or he can get things wrong even if they don’t mean too. I can’t count the number of sales people who have tried to sell me pink blushers!

For this reason, I also hate working with new makeup artists. But that’s a topic for another post.

The danger of having one trusted person is that they will, to a certain extent dictate how you look. Within your own style of course.

That in turn leads you to question anything you buy with a slightly less trusted person. And in my case, I’ve found that if my main trusted person don’t like what I bought, I tend to let it hang in my wardrobe for a couple of years before I give it to charity.

I’m not the only blind chick who does this. And I’ve had conversations where either I or a friend is completely down because “that dress was amazing but so and so said the colour is wrong”.

A question that also goes through a blind chick’s mind at that time is: Who is lying? Your main trusted person, or the one you bought the dress with?

It’s of course not that black and white. Because people have different tastes and different opinions on everything.

After a particularly upsetting episode where my before main trusted person said something about a clothing item I really liked, I decided that although it’s good to have one, two or three trusted people, they should never be allowed to dictate what you wear.

If somebody has told me I look good in something, and that is someone I trust, even if it’s not my number one go to for clothes shopping, I will wear it if I like it.

And. I’ve also learned that it’s cool to change your style even if you can’t see.

A couple of years ago, singlets and cardigans took up a huge space in my wardrobe. You’d be hard pressed to find me dressed like that now. And you know what? It was me who changed my style because I felt like a change. Not someone else.

Take charge of your looks today. Have your trusted person(s) but ultimately go with your gut instinct and use them as a guide only.

If I could suddenly see

Let’s imagine I woke up one day and I could suddenly see. 20 20 vision and I also knew how to see so I didn’t have to learn it.

Many people have asked me how I would spend my first day with sight. And this is what I would do.

First of all, I would enjoy putting on make-up. Seeing how different colour eye shadows and eye liners changed how I looked. Being creative with new combinations.

Make-up on along with a killer outfit I’d put together for the first time with sight, I’d walk out of my house and continue walking, enjoying the fact that my eyes would help me memorize the route along with my other four senses. I would look at shop windows and enjoy not having to wonder what shop was behind each door.

Then I would go in to a bookshop, browse the books and buy one I really wated to read. I would take it to a park with a nice bench where I’d sit down and read. Maybe I’d listen to music too, or maybe not. I would at least enjoy the fact that I was holding the book, turning the pages and that the book was a normal, regular print book.

Hungry after a few hours in the park, I’d go to a random café, scan the menu and order lunch. There, I would pick up a newspaper and read it. Enjoying too that this was print.

In the afternoon, I’d go cycling. And I’d go to a supermarket and browse the shelves, finding new products I didn’t know existed. And in the evening, I’d watch a movie or two, not needing audiodescription or explaining what happened.

I guess this is a pretty boring, average day. But for me, doing these things would be pretty cool as I can’t do them now. I rely on technology, audio and the internet to manage on a day to day basis. And though I’m not complaining about that, it would be cool and exciting not to need a phone to read a newspaper, or the internet to discover new supermarket products.

I would of course sign up for driving lessons pretty quick too.

One thing I would still do if I got sight though, is to keep using my other senses. My sensory world is in some ways more varied without sight I think, because I have to use so many other clues to work out my surroundings And with sight, I’d be a ninja woman.

And wouldn’t it just be nice to turn off the JAWS or the voiceover? I’d certainly love that. That way I could chat on what’s app while listening to music on my phone.